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Be Vulnerable like Brené Brown and Shine in the Media

Be Vulnerable like Brené Brown and Shine in the Media

By Jani Moon

May 13, 2014

I LOVE Brené Brown.

When I saw her Ted Talk on The Power of Vulnerability, I thought to myself, “We are finally progressing as a society. . . YES!!!” She made what I was learning in tantra class mainstream and people were finally getting it.

And yes, for all of you whose ears just perked up, I said tantra class. Hmm. Now, this is where I am supposed to define tantra, and no it’s not ALL about the Karma Sutra (although that is part of it). But instead, I am just going to let you google it because it is too vast in it’s magnificence to try and do it justice here with a few mere sentences. :)

Years ago, I was in a sexless marriage and we eventually ended up getting divorced. I realized my issue had less to do with sex itself and was more about my inability to be vulnerable. I couldn’t deeply share my true thoughts and feelings. I was delusional, constantly in denial, and lying to myself and to my spouse.

The truth was too painful for me to admit. That I was emotionally shutdown. That I couldn’t use the power of my voice to speak my truth. And that I couldn’t ask for what I needed.

So, I was silent.

And the silence turned into assumptions.
The assumptions turned into judgments.
And the judgments created toxic fears and dark emotions that eventually led to the decay and end of my marriage.

Ipsalu tantra (the tantra I studied) taught me to let go of my fears and limiting beliefs and gave me the courage to be vulnerable. And now, as a media coach, I teach my clients how to be vulnerable in the media so that they can connect more deeply to themselves, their message, and their audiences.

This is why Brené Brown is my hero. She is a pioneer in inspiring people to be vulnerable in order to be successful in their personal and professional lives.

You, too, can be vulnerable. You can change your life. You can have healthier relationships with your loved ones, be a star role model at work, and shine in the media.

Just be VULNERABLE.

Here are a few of my tips on how to vulnerable that I’ve learned along the way.

1. Confess your sins. We are all going to pretend for a moment that we are Catholic school girls confessing our sins to a priest. Start with the phrase, “I confess . . .,” and then confess something close to your heart. It’s awkward at first, but once you get the hang of it, you actually can have some fun.

I confess that even though I am a vegetarian, I sometimes fantasize about eating a steak and baked potato. I confess that I lied to my mom about using Botox. I confess that sometimes I can’t stand looking and hearing myself on camera—and I’m a media coach!

2. Be Howard Stern. Practice no filter. Be completely transparent. Take some risks. Pretend that you just had three shots of tequila: What would you dare to say? Don’t be afraid to be bold, raunchy, or offensive.

For example, all lip injections need to be made illegal. I masturbate before I see you because I am not satisfied. You need to lose 10 pounds to get rid of your muffin top.

You don’t need to be mean, just honest.

3. Use the phrase, “I feel _____.” Stick in an emotion word. Then tell me WHY. For
example, “I feel nervous about making the deadline because I might get fired.” Or, “I’m scared you will leave me and fall in love with someone else.”

Now, it’s your turn.

4. Listen to the three-headed oracle. She has three questions for you to answer. Answer them out loud or else.

-What would I say if I wasn’t scared of being rejected?
-What would I say if I wasn’t scared of being judged?
-What would I say if I 100% felt that I deserved it?

5. Let your body talk. This might sound a little airy-fairy to some of you but I swear it works. Put your hand on your heart. Breathe into it. Ask yourself, “What does my heart want to say?” And then say it!

Or . . .

Focus on your gut, your power center. Ask that part of your body, “What is it that is hidden deep, deep down inside in my gut that I just don’t want to say?” Then, say it!

6. Write it and read it out-loud. This one is for those of you who are super stuck in the
throat. I have been there. I would go to say something, and it would just get stuck in my throat like a cement wall was preventing any words from passing. It was exhausting and frustrating.

But this is easy. Write down all the “stuff” you are scared to say out-loud, and just read it, plain and simple. It totally does the trick.

There you have it. Now YOU can be vulnerable like Brené Brown and shine in the media and in your life! Yahoo!!!

Watch the Ted Talk now!

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